'I admit it still feels a bit odd to actively try to downplay my masculinity, but if I end up with a girl it's a temporary sacrifice I'm prepared to make.'įarndell, an architect from Essex, agrees. 'I'm more successful and less nervous if I treat dating almost as if it's a sitcom or I'm a character in a film. 'To tell a woman you're gay is the end of everything,' he says. 'You need to make absolutely certain she can't accuse you of lying or deceiving her. The knack is to nuance your behaviour so she assumes you're homosexual but, when she realises you're not, feels it was she who misread the situation. 'Dancing is always a good ploy because heterosexual men aren't supposed to be able to move.
